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Onboarding

How you welcome new members shapes their entire experience. A thoughtful onboarding process communicates your community’s values before you ever state them explicitly.

The strongest communities grow through personal invitation rather than open enrollment. This means:

  • Existing members vouch for new members they invite
  • The voucher takes responsibility for helping the new member integrate
  • New members meet the community through their sponsor, not through a sign-up page

This isn’t gatekeeping — it’s quality assurance. A personal introduction carries more weight than any FAQ.

This pattern is adapted from the IrregularChat community, which uses a vouching system for member verification.

Use this as a starting point. See our detailed template for a copy-paste version.

Not everyone who’s interested should join immediately. For a group of 10:

StageCount
Invited / expressed interest5-8
Attended first meeting3-4
Committed after first month2-3

A 30-40% conversion rate from interest to commitment is healthy. Don’t lower your standards to fill seats.

Sometimes a new member doesn’t align with the community’s culture or values. Address it early:

  1. Private conversation with the sponsor
  2. Honest, kind feedback: “Here’s what we’ve noticed”
  3. Clear options: adjust behavior, take a break, or part ways
  4. No public drama — handle it with dignity